Dutch men

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Everybody who has ever lived in the Netherlands or has dated Dutch men, seems to have an opinion about Dutch men.

On websites, forum and blogs, complaints about the boys from Holland are running wild: They lack necessary skills in flirting, let their agendas rule their (love)lives and are so enthusiastic about feminism, a girl is likely to pay her own bill when on a date with a Dutch guy.


What’s up with Dutch men?

Let’s look at some international polls on males from Holland, compared to their foreign counterparts.

Dutch guys like shopping

Discovery channel found out Dutch men really enjoy shopping for groceries. Moreover, they enjoy doing this together with their partner. Only 5% of Dutch men said they hated the daily walk to the supermarket. Dutch men prefer to buy computers (71%) and electronics (61) on their own or they decide with their partner.


The same research concluded that Dutch men are vain. They use many beauty products and 84% think it’s important to look good. However, they spend as little as 3 minutes looking at the mirror. Vain maybe, but Dutch men are actually quite insecure about their looks. 70% find himself not sexy. But they do use a lot of beauty products.

Are Dutch men attractive?

Dutch men are not considered to be the most attractive. A survey among holiday makers showed you’d be more likely to meet good looking men in Italy. Dutch men are most popular among people from Norway.

Dutch men don’t settle

In comparison to other men in Europe, Dutch guys have difficulties settling down. They are in average way over 30 years old to buy a house or get married. Apparently Dutch men also have the least desire to have children. They postpone having children because they want to know for sure if they are ready for fatherhood. Caring for a wife and children is at the bottom of his list of priorities.

Dutch men don’t flirt

In a study of on-line flirting by social network site Badoo.com, Athens in Greece was named the world’s flirtatious city. Badoo ranked cities by the number of on-line chats or flirtations that were initiated per month by the average Badoo user in a particular city.

Unfortunately, Dutch men don’t flirt. Chat users from Amsterdam initiated an average of 18.4 conversations per month. It’s still bettter than Buenos Aires (16,3), Rio de Janeiro (12.4) and Germany (17.7). In Athens, Moscow and Kuwait City Badoo users initiate over 25 chats each.

Dutch men don't flirt, except with Dutch Chantal Janzen

Dutch musical start and celeb Chantal Janzen is Holland’s most sexy girl


Popular Dutch girls

To get an idea of the ideal woman for Dutch men, here is a photo of Dutch celebrity Chantal Janzen, who was choosen most sexy Dutch girl.



They might not be easy to get into the sack, or so they say, but once they are there, it’s worth it, if you believe a survey by Men’s Health. According to findings from the magazine, Dutch men take the longest time for foreplay to climax. They have an average time of 22 minutes. Only Mexicans take longer..

If size matters…

Dutch men have large p*nises. The average p*nis size in Holland is 15,87 centimetre. Number 1? Men from Congo. Theirs measure a whooping 17,93 centimetre. On target map there is hugely interesting map available.

Satisfaction in numbers

On the website of condom maker Durex you can see worldwide levels of frequency of sex and the levels of satisfaction. 68% of Dutch respondents said they were having sex on a weekly basis. 50% said they were satisfied. Compared to other countries, people with Dutch partners are well off. People in Greece and Mexico seemed rather happy with their sex lives as well.

Do you think Dutch men don’t flirt? Let us know in the comments.




33 Responses to Dutch men

  1. Tamara November 28, 2011 at 04:19

    Hi i live in cancun Mexico, and I met the most amazing guy I’ve ever been with… Dutch, he was super sexy, so caring and romantic, and tender, he never ever let me pay for anything, that is why is very hard for me to believe what I just read… plus he didn’t have a big p*nis but he was fantastic in bed. <3
    I'm used to having sex with mexicans, and the few foreigners that I've been with where never good, until I met my Dutch guy… God I miss him so much. If I could I would move to holland. please don't make them look that bad. I've never met such an amazing guy that good looking and such an amazing lover!!!

    • Sarah June 11, 2012 at 17:25

      Sarah on 11th June,2012 at 6.18pm

      Hello, I’m bengali n I live in London. I have had mostly positive experiences with Dutch men, and a few bad 1s. The person who wrote the stuff about Dutch men, should NOT generalise! Not every1 has the same personality in all countries. From my experiences with the Dutch men that I’ve met over the last few years, I believe that they are really gud lovers ^^ The things mentioned in sum of the text the opposite to what I saw about them. Again, this means don’t generalise! I have sum Ducth friends, n they listen to me for what I have to say, respect me n I am comfortable to talk to them about anything. They’re so nice. There r gud n bad ppl in all countries, so u shud NOT generalise.

  2. Tasha June 14, 2012 at 18:23

    Well i knew a dutch guy. just like tamara said he was so loving, caring and over all the best guy you could meet. we started out friends. i met him online. We talked for over a year everyday and web cammed cause i just wanted to see his gorgeous face. he was very very attractive. I love dutch boys. But needless to say i really started falling for him and he told me he loved me. He was planning to come all the way from the netherlands to the u.s to meet me. Sounds like a fairytale huh? But they was a little problem in my story.I had a boyfriend of 3 years that i was having alot of trouble with. I loved my boyfriend but i wad falling for my dutch best friend. Thom(my dutch friend)sat on the phone with me for 7 hours crying when i told him we had to break things off cause it wasnt right cause i had a boyfriend. I havent talked to him since. its been about 3 months since then. I really do miss him.

    This dutch guy will make a lucky lady happy one day. Sometimes i wish it was me.Even though he said he will always love me and no one else i want him happy.

  3. DisappointedinDutchies July 31, 2012 at 19:02

    I live in Amsterdam. When Dutch men are good looking, they’re REALLY good looking. I mean, it’s like walking into an Abercrombie and Fitch or Polo model shoot. There are several Mark Vanderloo’s walking around Amsterdam.

    BUT. But but but, it’s a bloody nightmare to hook up with one. Flirting is practically non-existent and you can really only ever not be surprised if it happens when the Adonises are drunk. And the sex can be good for the 5 minutes you’re actually having it. The before/after experience is fit for a prostitute.

    Then there’s the nose-picking and other gross habits that come from their lack of manners, though, ironically, they are polite in other ways. But don’t expect them to open the door for you or do anything that makes you feel like a lady. Dutch women are often referred to as “horrible” by many Dutch men and it’s obvious why. Dutch women have taken the manhood out of their men – and now they go after Arabic immigrants to get their fix. Oh, the irony!

    • Bronagh November 26, 2012 at 20:01

      I Agree!!! I dated a Dutch guy for a while and he was super gentle with me. He was thoughtful, considerate, listened etc…and for that I respect him 100% and also thought highly of Dutch people based on this. I admit he was vain, he knew it to. I dont think I had a problem with it really. It was just very strange because im not used to that with Irish boy…they can hardly dress themselves.

      I’ve also just been to Amsterdam for the weekend…and I agree…Dutch men do not flirt!! It was the most unflattering nights out Ive had in a long time. I saw men looking at me but it was impossible to tell what they were thinking. It was very intimidating. AND yes- they are very good looking, which didn’t help matters. I didn’t know if they were looking at me because I looked bad or not up to their standard or bacause they were “interested”..but I did not apporoach any because basically I didn’t have the confidence. Theyre was no signs, no flirting, no approaching me and asking would I like a drink, NOTHING. Even when I just chatted to one guy it felt like he was concentrating on looking cool rather than relaxing and having a bit of fun. It was bizarre and I din’t really like it to be honest.

      I would say they definitley look after themselves and have style. I don’t have a problem with this but I did find them bland/ boring/ no fun. It was very dissapointing and frustrating.

      I was quite disspointed. I’m in no hurry to visit agai, not the most friendly or welcoming people. This is how I felt at the time, but having read your blog, its good to know it wasn’t just me!!

  4. DisappointedinDutchies July 31, 2012 at 19:03

    Btw, “sexy” cannot be applied to Dutch men but especially not to the women. They are some of the least graceful moving things in existence.

    • Rene February 5, 2013 at 22:52

      You were either rejected by someone Dutch or have a issue with Dutch people, they are not the most sexy but are at least in the top ten, come on any Europe country has the sexiest people.

      • CheeseHead April 15, 2013 at 12:07

        The Netherlands does have sexy people, they’re called foreigners and people of mixed race. Beautiful and sexy are two different things and Dutch people are easily the first but rarely the latter, especially the butch women.

        • Karina May 13, 2013 at 09:40

          Really? And what “foreigners” are you referring to? The rude, aggressive shady men from north Africa and the Middle East that Amsterdam is so full of… who often automatically think Western, white women are whores, and treat them as such? There are many sexy native Dutch people. Clear your brainwashed “multi-culti” mindset, and you just might find them. They are more than just pretty faces.

      • Daphne June 16, 2013 at 23:21

        I agree!!!

    • Daphne June 16, 2013 at 23:39

      This is not so nice that you write,women are very beautiful.

  5. Tanja October 1, 2012 at 19:06

    Only time will tell!

  6. Niki March 25, 2013 at 22:51

    My experience with Dutch men has been very good thus far. They are open and decent communicators. Sure they have their issues with settling down, but which man doesn’t. In fact, the ones who do (like the partners of my non-native Dutch friends) are loving husbands, who are still cool and sexy, and give their partners the freedom they want/ need. And Dutch guys are very much about pleasing a woman in bed. I have lived in different parts of the world, and now live in Amsterdam, and I am pretty please with what I have seen… On a general scale, Dutch men are top-rated for me. :)

  7. Karina May 13, 2013 at 09:04

    I have travelled many times to the Netherlands over the years, and every time I am still amazed at how sexy, tall, genuine, kind and confident the Dutch men I see and meet are. And yes, they are generally well-endowed. And they dress so much better than American men, but not over-the-top douchey like many eastern and southern European men.

    I hear similar complaints, though (generally from North Americans and some southern Europeans) about the “lack of flirting”, the “not treating me like a lady”, etc. These men are from one of the most female-friendly countries in the world, so they don’t have this chauvinistic mentality towards women — that you will find in SO MANY cultures! It is refreshing! There is generally no game-playing, no “dating” bs, and no unrealistic expectations. If they like you, you will know it. If they just want a one-night stand, you will know it, or if they want to get to know you better over time, they will say it. They keep it real. And what’s wrong with a woman approaching a man if she’s interested? Dutch men, unlike some other cultures, will not assume you are slutty or aggressive if you approach them. They will be pleased, especially if you are from another country.

    If you want to be treated like some little ex-pat princess, “charmed” by bullsh*t and lies (just to get you in bed), then go to southern Europe or Latin America, where bullsh*t, aggressive flirtation, and sexist behaviour is the norm. And if you expect men to pay for you, then chances are you are not a lady, but a little self-entitled girl wanting to be pampered and controlled.

  8. Laura June 15, 2013 at 03:18

    I am american and just recently met a dutch man online. He lives in the states now and has a 5 yr old girl. We have instant messaged and done some video chatting. He says he misses me and cant wait to spend the rest of his life with me. Of course he asked how I felt about a daughter. I love children so that didnt matter to me. He stated his wife passed away a few years ago. I find it a bit strange that he says stuff like “husband and wife are looking at each other on video chat”. He really wants to marry me and has already told his daughter about me. he said she is very excited. She was 1 when her mom passed. He is 200% different from all I read about on dutch men. I told him he doesnt seem real and that he is really kind with a good heart. Now I am a very cautious women who is very guarded so I dont know what to think about the dutch and their feelings.

    • Daphne June 16, 2013 at 23:19

      Stay away from Dutch men

    • Juicy December 7, 2014 at 02:06

      Hi Girls, I agree with the Dutch men being mostly handsome I met one that I still remember after years on .. and of course about the mostly cold and butchy women. My sister is married to one she seems happy he is nice so I think is a personal vibe ..think positive and you will attract the right one of course have an analytical mind to judge and discard promtly what ain’t good to move on :) but truth be told Dutch man are mostly faithful decent and hardworking and the sex and attention issues are little things compared to what is good from them so you take the initiative and show them the right way :) for good lovers yes the Dutch men are.

  9. Daphne June 16, 2013 at 23:00

    Well I worked in Holland for 6 months and my impression for Dutch men at first was that were very polite and helpful to me with my suitcases on the trains etc.
    I found them to be very handsome tall and very good looking…most of them.
    I got to meet one very handsome very sexy but not performing as well as the southern European men.They are very much weird in their sexual preferences and to my experience very perverted. The truth is that are very straight forward not romance not much sensitivity about women feelings.
    I met another one lately on internet very handsome !!! but his addiction is sex over skype.He is asking women to dress with sexy underwear’s,panty hose and he masturbates.Actually I was amazed to see how he was acting and behave in front of the camera acting like a gorilla.The minute he was ready to explode the camera was going off without an excuse.
    I think Dutch men are sexually aroused from porno and other things that are not so normal to other nationalities.Are boring men handsome with big penises but not much to offer to women emotionally or other wise.
    This is my opinion.

    • Alex July 25, 2014 at 04:55

      Wooooah man I skyped some dutch man as well! Did his username start with a T? If so I’m not surprised he’s skyping other ladies.

      • Rachel June 18, 2015 at 02:50

        I know this is an extremely old comment, but I’ve skyped with a Dutch man too, with the username beginning with T. Slightly worried that it’s the same guy you’re on about now! Haha.

        • Amy August 9, 2015 at 14:48

          Omg, I just knew a dutch man from internet and we skyped too, and his username starts with T too. May I know how to get in touch with you so you can show me his username? please!

      • Amy August 9, 2015 at 14:50

        His username consists of how many words? the first letter of each word is it T_T_O?

  10. Adriana April 27, 2014 at 19:07

    Daphne was spot on! And I am from the Netherlands so I should know. There is a lack of passion and personally I prefer non Dutch men at least they know how to court a lady.

  11. Krista June 28, 2014 at 20:01

    The only hot Dutch people are the mixed race ones.

  12. Dasy August 17, 2014 at 21:31

    Spot on Katrina!! Well written and I couldn’t agree more.

  13. Evil Queenie September 23, 2014 at 03:58

    The one I met I was halt worth at 95%. I didn’t like how his sex drive was insatiable. I him at a club. Didn’t think anything would happen. Now we skype and pm reach other 2-3 times a week. I have to drag indo or of him about his girlfriend and he makes her sound unimportent and lame. Yet he gets a smile on his face about when he’s staying with me. Kinda a kooky one. However, he is sweet, very helpful, genourus, funny and isn’t afraid to see my side of things. His gf…lucky bitch!

  14. Mo32 April 7, 2015 at 21:50

    I am currently in a relationship with a dutch man and well he is so very polite and thoughtful and he is very good looking ! The opposite of vein!! He Loves God and was raised to treat woman with respect ! But here’s the kicker , he is so tight and well kind of boring .He has to discuss and plan everything we do when I am the exact opposite of him !! He will not spend money for anything and it drives me crazy !!! He dresses very nice but very casual and I would like to see him in something other than jeans and polos , he is very good in bed so the whole four play thing he has got an a plus for that !! Now we have been seeing eachother sense October and we are still getting to know one another and he is bringing me home to meet his family next month so I hope the best for this trip and relationship and I hope it works out but if not I gave it my all!!

  15. Lisa May 7, 2015 at 16:33

    I think a lot of the men are quite good looking, many are good conversationalists but though I am partnered with a Dutch guy, overall I think the manners can also be very bad. An example…just earlier today I took my dog for a walk and had a huge unleashed pitbull run down the street after my dog. The man who owned that dog hurled abuse at me for walking away. I’ve had my dog attacked before and would rather avoid something so awful again.
    In Amsterdam I find that men think nothing of yelling insults at women and go from zero to fully fledged abusive swearing in seconds. If they gather that you are foreign they will use xenophobic rants quite easily.
    The way that men and women interact in the Netherlands is very different from my own country. I met many Dutch people there in the past and whilst on holiday, people were charming,well mannered and decent.
    There are plenty of men with a big mouth, like a song by YesYou called Amsterdam states “..think with my mouth and talk with my hands in Amsterdam”… that sums up a lot of the men. Or Parov Stelar in his song Amsterdam “where all the souls are lying”

    It hasn’t made me jaded yet but if I live in Amsterdam for too long it will.

  16. nira May 11, 2015 at 14:39

    I have been to Amsterdam and I met lots of guys, maybe it how you think about, what I know is that Dutch men have a fear of rejection, if you want a Dutch guy approach

  17. Anissha July 1, 2015 at 14:39

    Hi. This Dutch guy you were referring to in your comment seems familiar because the words he told you are similar to what my Dutch guy told me too– worked in the states now back in UK, wife died of heart failure, marrying me, having a 5 (then) now 7 year old daughter who is excited to meet me. Seems unreal to me but so nice and sounded true. Though we haven’t video chatted since we met online 1 1/2 months ago. He plans to visit me in my country (Phils) soon. Thought we might be talking of the same guy. Just curious, is the name Cyril D?

  18. Thwel August 9, 2015 at 10:42

    I met a Dutch man and he is not like you wrote.
    He is kind, happy and very attractive.
    He used to treat me dinner cooked by him. Simple and used to wear neat and tidy and very gentle in bed also.
    Even he used to sing a song for me when I said I can’t sleep.
    Always try to look eyes to and and used to say what he wants.

  19. Rachel August 15, 2015 at 16:17

    Hi Amy. No this person that I had didn’t have a username consisting of those letters, sorry!

  20. Chel August 28, 2015 at 06:12

    Hi, I knew a dutch men whom I meet too in a website
    Everything he said is too good to be true, can I ask if the one that you’ve been talking too has a a word man in his skype account

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