Dutch men

by Tanja
Dutch men don't marry

Everybody who has ever lived in the Netherlands or has dated a Dutch guy seems to have an opinion about Dutch men: Dutch guys don’t flirt, they let their agendas rule their (love)lives and are so enthusiastic about feminism, a girl is likely to pay her own bill when on a date!

So what do Dutch guys look for in a woman? Let’s look at the facts and see what the research says about Dutch guys.

1. What do Dutch guys look for in a woman?

The Dutch newspaper Volkskrant did a big investigation in 2014 to find out what Dutch men look for in a woman. The men were all highly educated and maybe that is the reason why 28% said intelligence is most important. Also in the top 3: sweetness and cheerfulness.

2. It’s all in the eyes, say Dutch men

When it comes to looks, most Dutchmen said they find the eyes of a woman important. Second, are breasts and bottom. Attractiveness is important but Dutch men don’t care much for heavy makeup. Tip for girls in love with a Dutch guy: Dutchmen like a more natural style.

3. Dutch guys like women in high heels

Natural maybe, but high heels are still considered attractive. According to research done by Harris Interactive, shoes are important to Dutch men. 63% said they also take good care of their own shoes.

4. Who do Dutch men find attractive?

To get an idea of the ideal woman for Dutch men, here is a photo of Dutch celebrity Chantal Janzen. The tv-presenter, actrice and musical star was chosen most sexy Dutch girl a few times by Dutch men.

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A post shared by Chantal Janzen (@chantaljanzen.official)

5. Dutch men wear old underwear

Nice shoes might be important to Dutch guys, the quality of their underwear certainly is not. Don’t be surprised if the Dutch guy you are dating is wearing worn-out underwear!

The Dutch shop Zeeman found out that 1 in 3 of the Dutch men continue to wear underwear even when it is worn out. At least, that is what their partners say. 37% of Dutch women say their men walk around in old underwear.

6. The Dutch have sex before marriage

Sex before marriage is not a problem for Dutch men and Dutch women. Most Dutch people also think there is nothing strange about gay people. The use of birth control is high in The Netherlands. Most girls use the pill. This research comes from Rutgers, the Dutch centre of expertise on sexual and reproductive health and rights.

7. Are Dutch guys vain?

In research done by Discovery Channel in 2010, it seemed Dutch guys use a lot of beauty products. But are Dutch guys vain? Compared to men in other countries, Dutch men actually take very little time looking in the mirror. Though 84% think it’s important to look good, the average Dutch guy spends only 3 minutes looking in the mirror every day.

8. Dutch man wants you to think he is honest and not rich

Dutch guys find it important that women think they are honest (36%) and loyal (35%), according to the Volkskrant research. Only 1% of Dutch men say he finds it important that women think he is wealthy! A Dutch man does not care for bragging!

So, are dutch men rich? A Dutch 30-year old makes about 33.000 euros a year. 

9. Are Dutch men attractive?

Dutch men are not considered the most attractive in the world. A survey among holidaymakers showed you’d be more likely to meet good-looking men in Italy. The Italians were especially popular among British, Spanish, and Portuguese women. Dutch men are most popular among people from Norway.

Average Dutch man

The average Dutch man is tall, blonde and has blue eyes.


10. Dutch men are tallest

But if you like tall, sporty men, go for the Dutch. Officially, Dutch men are the tallest people in the world. On average Dutch men are taller than 183 cm. Find a map below coloring the tallest (blue) and shortest (red) people in the world.


Adult height for the 1896 and 1996 birth cohorts for men.

11. Dutch men don’t marry

Don’t expect your Dutch man to propose marriage any time soon. Especially young people prefer to live together. The Dutch are on average 37 years old before they get married. But nowadays many Dutch people never get married.

In 1997 60% of 35-year old men were married. In 2017 only 36% were married. Many Dutch choose a different kind of marriage: civil partnership.

12. Dutch guys don’t flirt

In a study of on-line flirting by social network site Badoo.com, Athens in Greece was named the world’s flirtatious city. Badoo ranked cities by the number of on-line chats or flirtations that were initiated per month by the average Badoo user in a particular city.

Unfortunately, Dutch men don’t flirt. Chat users from Amsterdam initiated an average of 18.4 conversations per month. It’s still better than Buenos Aires (16,3), Rio de Janeiro (12.4) and Germany (17.7). In Athens, Moscow and Kuwait City Badoo users initiate over 25 chats each.

13. What Dutch men are like in bed

Dutch guys might not be easy to get into the sack, or so they say. But once they are there, it’s worth it, if you believe a survey by Men’s Health. According to findings from the magazine, Dutch men take the longest time for foreplay to climax. They have an average time of 22 minutes. Only Mexicans take longer.

14. If size matters…

Dutch men have large p*nises. The average p*nis size in Holland is 15.87 cm. Number 1? Men from Congo. Theirs measure a whooping 17.93 cm. On target map there is hugely interesting map available.

15. Satisfaction in numbers

On the website of condom maker Durex you can see worldwide levels of frequency of sex and the levels of satisfaction. 68% of Dutch respondents said they were having sex on a weekly basis. 50% said they were satisfied. Compared to other countries, people with Dutch partners are well off. People in Greece and Mexico seemed rather happy with their sex lives as well.

Do you think Dutch guys don’t flirt? Let me know in the comments.

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Steph April 23, 2019 - 23:31

in my experience of getting to know a dutch man over social media.. firstly idk where there f his gf is.. but he does flirt, probably the biggest flirt I’ve seen on social media.. idk if tis cause he tries to be encouragement to women. It doesn’t come off as creepy or gross. But it all started out innocent with us. talking about our cats, design stuff, fitness etc.. mean while complimenting each other. The it became a game of teasing… well 1 thing lead to another :S I dont think i dont think he wanted it to go that far.. now every monring I get a video of him pulling his blanket down over his 8 pack :P saying good morning.. hehehe i mean his a cross the world what harm. But they do like their long foreplay, and they are well big,… Most of this is true. but I do think they flirt. I mean maybe its mostly over friendly with no intentions. He has to know his got girls eating out of his palm :S

Not only was he a flirt.. but I love reading his captions for his pictures. he is funny and weirdly silly. Something i didn’t expect from such a good looking guy and the love he has for his cat hehe lol

But I wouldnt for a sec think of him has bf material.. I didnt know at first he had a gf, and it seems like his been hiding it since we got sexual.. because he was mentioning her in his stories right before, now 4 weeks later not once. He has not mentioned it at all to me. I feel bad to a degree. But I think she knows what he does. Like I said I dont see him as bf or husband material. However I do wonder if I am different from other girls. As looking back he has never hid her like he has been with me. Kind of sad because I read captions on his past photos with her and he seemed to be crazy in love with her. But he has always been leaving comments on other girls photos like cutie, wwow :D faces etc now again idk if those were comments again were just to be encouraging because i’ve seen him do it to strangers, including not so fit looking women. I think he belongs to some fitgirl thing idk.

Long story short.. They aren’t faithful, huge flirts, and yes funny!! Funnier than any guys I know here in Canada, doesn’t come across vain, but does take good care of himself. I don’t know about the splitting the bill. Huge penises and high sex drive at least with me.. 1st 8 days we did it over video 7 x :S and has been every other day kind of thing since. idk where his gf is. So idk if shes even in the picture anymore. Ive had a shity year the last year, so I’m taking whatever I want i don’t care lol I’ve always had the high morals goody good girl. But I am at the point of wanting to jump on a plane hehe

Quinn Tine February 10, 2019 - 12:51

I have a Dutch boyfriend right now but we are in a Long distance relationship.I am from the Philippines and he is from Netherlands.We met on a gamesite and I quickly fell inlove with him.I don’t know why I do belive and faithful in him even if we haven’t had a videocall ever.We’re just sending photos of each other on hangouts and being in a relationship on Facebook.i don’t know what will going through between us.

Angel May 16, 2020 - 14:41

How’s the relationship so far?

Ann January 23, 2019 - 04:32

I’ve been dating a Dutch guy for 4 months and this article really describes our relationship. He’s tall, very smart, thoughtful, very handsome, amazing and exciting in bed (large penis and likes to try new things), great libido, loves to travel, but he is extremely cheap (even though he makes at least twice what I make), a little boring and very stubborn. He likes what he likes and that’s the end all and be all, he won’t budge. Anyone who disagrees is simply wrong. He is emotionally stunted as well. I love the fact that he’s direct and honest because I am the same, but I am also expressive and he is a robot. I try to get him to describe things to me, asking him how things make him feel, etc. and he is incapable of expressing any emotion. I really do have strong feelings for him, but I think I need someone who is a little warmer and expressive, and someone who picks up the tab every now and then. I swear, I’m going broke dating this guy!

A August 25, 2020 - 21:36

Sounds like the same guy I dating now, exactly

Ellie January 6, 2019 - 18:27

I thought most Dutch guys looked like Rutger Hauer, but I’m wrong, most don’t. I’m in love with Hauer he’s so hot in his young days. A lot of Dutch dudes of today are dark haired and look Italian! Good looking but not my type and obsessed with sex. I like intelligent and classy guys who think with their brain not their peens.

Iris December 1, 2018 - 16:11

I live in Amsterdam and it sucks because I’m from South America. Most Dutch guys are bald and look freaking 40 when they are 30. I am 30 as well, and I only find younger people attractive so I’m stuck with dating immature 20 somethings. Is like something happens to their damn nose, ears, and forehead when they reach 30 and it seems that becoming less attractive is the only thing that makes them reach maturity and want to settle down. Apart from that, yeah ugly ones are great for a husband. Good looking ones are freaking shallow especially in Amsterdam. Also here career matter a lot so if you got a good career or Ph.D. you will get better-looking ones but if you didn’t study, sorry but you belong to date the ones in your same “class”. That’s the Dutch mentality, rational and cold. They do dress good, but again they lack personality. Most Dutch people look, dress and act so similar, is like after a couple of years here I don’t even like Dutch people that much anymore. It is like dating the same person over and over again.

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