Dutch men

by Tanja
Dutch men don't marry

Everybody who has ever lived in the Netherlands or has dated a Dutch guy seems to have an opinion about Dutch men: Dutch guys don’t flirt, they let their agendas rule their (love)lives and are so enthusiastic about feminism, a girl is likely to pay her own bill when on a date!

So what do Dutch guys look for in a woman? Let’s look at the facts and see what the research says about Dutch guys.

1. What do Dutch guys look for in a woman?

The Dutch newspaper Volkskrant did a big investigation in 2014 to find out what Dutch men look for in a woman. The men were all highly educated and maybe that is the reason why 28% said intelligence is most important. Also in the top 3: sweetness and cheerfulness.

2. It’s all in the eyes, say Dutch men

When it comes to looks, most Dutchmen said they find the eyes of a woman important. Second, are breasts and bottom. Attractiveness is important but Dutch men don’t care much for heavy makeup. Tip for girls in love with a Dutch guy: Dutchmen like a more natural style.

3. Dutch guys like women in high heels

Natural maybe, but high heels are still considered attractive. According to research done by Harris Interactive, shoes are important to Dutch men. 63% said they also take good care of their own shoes.

4. Who do Dutch men find attractive?

To get an idea of the ideal woman for Dutch men, here is a photo of Dutch celebrity Chantal Janzen. The tv-presenter, actrice and musical star was chosen most sexy Dutch girl a few times by Dutch men.

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A post shared by Chantal Janzen (@chantaljanzen.official)

5. Dutch men wear old underwear

Nice shoes might be important to Dutch guys, the quality of their underwear certainly is not. Don’t be surprised if the Dutch guy you are dating is wearing worn-out underwear!

The Dutch shop Zeeman found out that 1 in 3 of the Dutch men continue to wear underwear even when it is worn out. At least, that is what their partners say. 37% of Dutch women say their men walk around in old underwear.

6. The Dutch have sex before marriage

Sex before marriage is not a problem for Dutch men and Dutch women. Most Dutch people also think there is nothing strange about gay people. The use of birth control is high in The Netherlands. Most girls use the pill. This research comes from Rutgers, the Dutch centre of expertise on sexual and reproductive health and rights.

7. Are Dutch guys vain?

In research done by Discovery Channel in 2010, it seemed Dutch guys use a lot of beauty products. But are Dutch guys vain? Compared to men in other countries, Dutch men actually take very little time looking in the mirror. Though 84% think it’s important to look good, the average Dutch guy spends only 3 minutes looking in the mirror every day.

8. Dutch man wants you to think he is honest and not rich

Dutch guys find it important that women think they are honest (36%) and loyal (35%), according to the Volkskrant research. Only 1% of Dutch men say he finds it important that women think he is wealthy! A Dutch man does not care for bragging!

So, are dutch men rich? A Dutch 30-year old makes about 33.000 euros a year. 

9. Are Dutch men attractive?

Dutch men are not considered the most attractive in the world. A survey among holidaymakers showed you’d be more likely to meet good-looking men in Italy. The Italians were especially popular among British, Spanish, and Portuguese women. Dutch men are most popular among people from Norway.

Average Dutch man

The average Dutch man is tall, blonde and has blue eyes.


10. Dutch men are tallest

But if you like tall, sporty men, go for the Dutch. Officially, Dutch men are the tallest people in the world. On average Dutch men are taller than 183 cm. Find a map below coloring the tallest (blue) and shortest (red) people in the world.


Adult height for the 1896 and 1996 birth cohorts for men.

11. Dutch men don’t marry

Don’t expect your Dutch man to propose marriage any time soon. Especially young people prefer to live together. The Dutch are on average 37 years old before they get married. But nowadays many Dutch people never get married.

In 1997 60% of 35-year old men were married. In 2017 only 36% were married. Many Dutch choose a different kind of marriage: civil partnership.

12. Dutch guys don’t flirt

In a study of on-line flirting by social network site Badoo.com, Athens in Greece was named the world’s flirtatious city. Badoo ranked cities by the number of on-line chats or flirtations that were initiated per month by the average Badoo user in a particular city.

Unfortunately, Dutch men don’t flirt. Chat users from Amsterdam initiated an average of 18.4 conversations per month. It’s still better than Buenos Aires (16,3), Rio de Janeiro (12.4) and Germany (17.7). In Athens, Moscow and Kuwait City Badoo users initiate over 25 chats each.

13. What Dutch men are like in bed

Dutch guys might not be easy to get into the sack, or so they say. But once they are there, it’s worth it, if you believe a survey by Men’s Health. According to findings from the magazine, Dutch men take the longest time for foreplay to climax. They have an average time of 22 minutes. Only Mexicans take longer.

14. If size matters…

Dutch men have large p*nises. The average p*nis size in Holland is 15.87 cm. Number 1? Men from Congo. Theirs measure a whooping 17.93 cm. On target map there is hugely interesting map available.

15. Satisfaction in numbers

On the website of condom maker Durex you can see worldwide levels of frequency of sex and the levels of satisfaction. 68% of Dutch respondents said they were having sex on a weekly basis. 50% said they were satisfied. Compared to other countries, people with Dutch partners are well off. People in Greece and Mexico seemed rather happy with their sex lives as well.

Do you think Dutch guys don’t flirt? Let me know in the comments.

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Tanja October 1, 2012 - 19:06

Only time will tell!

DisappointedinDutchies July 31, 2012 - 19:03

Btw, “sexy” cannot be applied to Dutch men but especially not to the women. They are some of the least graceful moving things in existence.

Rene February 5, 2013 - 22:52

You were either rejected by someone Dutch or have a issue with Dutch people, they are not the most sexy but are at least in the top ten, come on any Europe country has the sexiest people.

CheeseHead April 15, 2013 - 12:07

The Netherlands does have sexy people, they’re called foreigners and people of mixed race. Beautiful and sexy are two different things and Dutch people are easily the first but rarely the latter, especially the butch women.

Karina May 13, 2013 - 09:40

Really? And what “foreigners” are you referring to? The rude, aggressive shady men from north Africa and the Middle East that Amsterdam is so full of… who often automatically think Western, white women are whores, and treat them as such? There are many sexy native Dutch people. Clear your brainwashed “multi-culti” mindset, and you just might find them. They are more than just pretty faces.

Daphne June 16, 2013 - 23:21

I agree!!!

Daphne June 16, 2013 - 23:39

This is not so nice that you write,women are very beautiful.

DisappointedinDutchies July 31, 2012 - 19:02

I live in Amsterdam. When Dutch men are good looking, they’re REALLY good looking. I mean, it’s like walking into an Abercrombie and Fitch or Polo model shoot. There are several Mark Vanderloo’s walking around Amsterdam.

BUT. But but but, it’s a bloody nightmare to hook up with one. Flirting is practically non-existent and you can really only ever not be surprised if it happens when the Adonises are drunk. And the sex can be good for the 5 minutes you’re actually having it. The before/after experience is fit for a prostitute.

Then there’s the nose-picking and other gross habits that come from their lack of manners, though, ironically, they are polite in other ways. But don’t expect them to open the door for you or do anything that makes you feel like a lady. Dutch women are often referred to as “horrible” by many Dutch men and it’s obvious why. Dutch women have taken the manhood out of their men – and now they go after Arabic immigrants to get their fix. Oh, the irony!

Bronagh November 26, 2012 - 20:01

I Agree!!! I dated a Dutch guy for a while and he was super gentle with me. He was thoughtful, considerate, listened etc…and for that I respect him 100% and also thought highly of Dutch people based on this. I admit he was vain, he knew it to. I dont think I had a problem with it really. It was just very strange because im not used to that with Irish boy…they can hardly dress themselves.

I’ve also just been to Amsterdam for the weekend…and I agree…Dutch men do not flirt!! It was the most unflattering nights out Ive had in a long time. I saw men looking at me but it was impossible to tell what they were thinking. It was very intimidating. AND yes- they are very good looking, which didn’t help matters. I didn’t know if they were looking at me because I looked bad or not up to their standard or bacause they were “interested”..but I did not apporoach any because basically I didn’t have the confidence. Theyre was no signs, no flirting, no approaching me and asking would I like a drink, NOTHING. Even when I just chatted to one guy it felt like he was concentrating on looking cool rather than relaxing and having a bit of fun. It was bizarre and I din’t really like it to be honest.

I would say they definitley look after themselves and have style. I don’t have a problem with this but I did find them bland/ boring/ no fun. It was very dissapointing and frustrating.

I was quite disspointed. I’m in no hurry to visit agai, not the most friendly or welcoming people. This is how I felt at the time, but having read your blog, its good to know it wasn’t just me!!

Tasha June 14, 2012 - 18:23

Well i knew a dutch guy. just like tamara said he was so loving, caring and over all the best guy you could meet. we started out friends. i met him online. We talked for over a year everyday and web cammed cause i just wanted to see his gorgeous face. he was very very attractive. I love dutch boys. But needless to say i really started falling for him and he told me he loved me. He was planning to come all the way from the netherlands to the u.s to meet me. Sounds like a fairytale huh? But they was a little problem in my story.I had a boyfriend of 3 years that i was having alot of trouble with. I loved my boyfriend but i wad falling for my dutch best friend. Thom(my dutch friend)sat on the phone with me for 7 hours crying when i told him we had to break things off cause it wasnt right cause i had a boyfriend. I havent talked to him since. its been about 3 months since then. I really do miss him.

This dutch guy will make a lucky lady happy one day. Sometimes i wish it was me.Even though he said he will always love me and no one else i want him happy.

Rachel September 2, 2017 - 04:13

Yes, my love life is almost the same. A few years ago I met a Dutch guy online. We always talk and are still talking to this day! Being a Canadian myself it’s hard with the time difference. It being 6 hours that is. Although, like you, he is planning on visiting me when he’s 18. We started out as friends just the two of us but quickly grew deep feelings for eachother and told one another. (Yes he likes me back haha). Martijn Is his name. Martijn is fantastic he loves me for me. He’s unlike all Dutch physically. He is the same height as me which is actually very small, and he has one of the highiest pitched voices in his class. He’s very successful and I hope to see him in a few years. He’s raising the money himself, scared to tell his friends about me due to the fact that I am a foreigner. He isn’t the most gorgeous man on the planet, but he suits to my liking which is good enough for me seeing I’m not the prettiest either. His personality is very Dutch. He loves video games and soccer. He isn’t extremely flirtatious but can be at times. The guy I’m talking to certainly is a jokester. Otherwise he’s a normal teen aged boy. When in bed… umm I’m still young so yeah not happening, so I can’t answer that question.. and honestly I really don’t want to hah. So yeah, over all from my experience the Dutch are very kind and thoughtful and I can’t wait to learn more about the country and culture.

Tamara November 28, 2011 - 04:19

Hi i live in cancun Mexico, and I met the most amazing guy I’ve ever been with… Dutch, he was super sexy, so caring and romantic, and tender, he never ever let me pay for anything, that is why is very hard for me to believe what I just read… plus he didn’t have a big p*nis but he was fantastic in bed. <3
I'm used to having sex with mexicans, and the few foreigners that I've been with where never good, until I met my Dutch guy… God I miss him so much. If I could I would move to holland. please don't make them look that bad. I've never met such an amazing guy that good looking and such an amazing lover!!!

Sarah June 11, 2012 - 17:25

Sarah on 11th June,2012 at 6.18pm

Hello, I’m bengali n I live in London. I have had mostly positive experiences with Dutch men, and a few bad 1s. The person who wrote the stuff about Dutch men, should NOT generalise! Not every1 has the same personality in all countries. From my experiences with the Dutch men that I’ve met over the last few years, I believe that they are really gud lovers ^^ The things mentioned in sum of the text the opposite to what I saw about them. Again, this means don’t generalise! I have sum Ducth friends, n they listen to me for what I have to say, respect me n I am comfortable to talk to them about anything. They’re so nice. There r gud n bad ppl in all countries, so u shud NOT generalise.

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