Dutch men

by Tanja

Everybody who has ever lived in the Netherlands or has dated a Dutch guy seems to have an opinion about Dutch men: Dutch guys don’t flirt, they let their agendas rule their (love)lives and are so enthusiastic about feminism, a girl is likely to pay her own bill when on a date! So what do Dutch guys look for in a woman?

What’s up with Dutch guys?

Let’s look at the facts and see what the research says about Dutch guys.


1. What do Dutch guys look for in a woman?

The Dutch newspaper Volkskrant did a big investigation in 2014 to find out what Dutch men look for in a woman. The men were all highly educated and maybe that is the reason why 28% said intelligence is most important. Also in the top 3: sweetness and cheerfulness.

2. It’ s all in the eyes, say Dutch men

When it comes to looks, most Dutchmen said they find the eyes of a woman important. Second are breasts and bottom. Attractiveness is important but Dutch men don’t care much for heavy makeup. Tip for girls in love with a Dutch guy: Dutch men like a more natural style.

3. Dutch guys like women in high heels

Natural maybe, but high heels are still considered attractive. According to research done by Harris Interactive, shoes are important to Dutch men. 63% said they also take good care of their own shoes.

4. Who do Dutch men find attractive?

To get an idea of the ideal woman for Dutch men, here is a photo of Dutch celebrity Chantal Janzen.

The tv-presenter, actrice and musical star was chosen most sexy Dutch girl a few times by Dutch men.

5. Dutch men wear old underwear

Nice shoes might be important to Dutch guys, the quality of their underwear certainly is not. Don’t be surprised if the Dutch guy you are dating is wearing worn-out underwear!

The Dutch shop Zeeman found out that 1 in 3 of the Dutch men continue to wear the underwear even when it is worn out. At least, that is what their partners say. 37% of Dutch women say their men walk around in old underwear.

Dutch guy and girl on a bicycle
Photo by Everton Vila on Unsplash

6. The Dutch have sex before marriage

Sex before marriage is not a problem for Dutch men and Dutch women. Most Dutch people also think there is nothing strange about gay people. The use of birth control is high in The Netherlands. Most girls use the pill. This research comes from Rutgers, the Dutch centre of expertise on sexual and reproductive health and rights.

7. Are Dutch guys vain?

In research done by Discovery Channel in 2010, it seemed Dutch guys use a lot of beauty products. But are Dutch guys vain? Compared to men in other countries, Dutch men actually take very little time looking in the mirror. Though 84% thinks it’s important to look good, the average Dutch guy spends only 3 minutes looking in the mirror every day.

8. Dutch man wants you to think he is honest and not rich

Dutch guys find it important that women think they are honest (36%) and loyal (35%), according to the Volkskrant research. Only 1% of Dutch men says he finds it important that women think he is wealthy! A Dutch men does not care for bragging!

9. Are Dutch men attractive?

Dutch men are not considered the most attractive in the world. A survey among holiday makers showed you’d be more likely to meet good looking men in Italy. The Italians were especially popular among British, Spanish and Portuguese women. Dutch men are most popular among people from Norway.

10. Dutch men are tallest

But if you like tall, sporty men, go for the Dutch. Officially, Dutch men are the tallest people in the world. On average Dutch men are taller than 183 cm. Find a map below coloring the tallest (blue) and shortest (red) people in the world.

Adult height for the 1896 and 1996 birth cohorts for men.

11. Dutch men don’t marry

Don’t expect your Dutch man to propose marriage any time soon. Especially young people prefer to live together. The Dutch are on average 37 years old before they get married. But nowadays many Dutch people never get married. In 1997 60% of 35-year old men were married. In 2017 only 36% were married. Many Dutch choose a different kind of marriage: civil partnership.

12. Dutch guys don’t flirt

In a study of on-line flirting by social network site Badoo.com, Athens in Greece was named the world’s flirtatious city. Badoo ranked cities by the number of on-line chats or flirtations that were initiated per month by the average Badoo user in a particular city.

Unfortunately, Dutch men don’t flirt. Chat users from Amsterdam initiated an average of 18.4 conversations per month. It’s still better than Buenos Aires (16,3), Rio de Janeiro (12.4) and Germany (17.7). In Athens, Moscow and Kuwait City Badoo users initiate over 25 chats each.

13. What Dutch men are like in bed

Dutch guys might not be easy to get into the sack, or so they say. But once they are there, it’s worth it, if you believe a survey by Men’s Health. According to findings from the magazine, Dutch men take the longest time for foreplay to climax. They have an average time of 22 minutes. Only Mexicans take longer.

14. If size matters…

Dutch men have large p*nises. The average p*nis size in Holland is 15.87 cm. Number 1? Men from Congo. Theirs measure a whooping 17.93 cm. On target map there is hugely interesting map available.

15. Satisfaction in numbers

On the website of condom maker Durex you can see worldwide levels of frequency of sex and the levels of satisfaction. 68% of Dutch respondents said they were having sex on a weekly basis. 50% said they were satisfied. Compared to other countries, people with Dutch partners are well off. People in Greece and Mexico seemed rather happy with their sex lives as well.

Do you think Dutch guys don’t flirt? Let me know in the comments.

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67 comments

AmericangirlinNL July 6, 2017 - 08:02

I know that every person is different, but unfortunately this article confirmed my relationship. I was married to a dutch man for a year and it was the worst sex…My ex is tall and a body builder, who is vain. He cares about how he dresses, however, what a disgusting slob he was to live with!!!

His penis was only average, a bit on the thin side, and uncircumcised. And every night after kissing for about 2 minutes, he would say he was “so horny”, and ask me to ride him, while he lay there dead as a fallen tree.

He was by far, the worst lover I ever had.
I am living in Holland now and I must say that most of the women are average looking, but tall. Some, especially the younger ones, are quite beautiful. The same goes for the men. Some are really gorgeous, while most are average, but tall. But most of the men are polite when I speak to them.
I get lots of looks and stares from men, and I can tell they are attracted, but they do not flirt.

Which is a pity…they don’t know what they are missing!!

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Taheed's mom October 26, 2016 - 19:45

I am in love with my professor who is a dutch, he has the nicest smile and he is very kind, i am half in love with him. just cannot completely be in love coz i am married myself and that’s too with a child. But i am really half in love with him.

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Moon October 5, 2016 - 23:09

I lived in the Netherlands for a couple of years and I dated some Dutch guys. It’s true that Dutch men find it difficult to settle down. They prefer to have fun than being committed. I noticed that it’s not only Dutch men, but also Dutch women so it has something to do with their worship of freedom. True that they are good in bed, passionate and like to explore. It seems that Dutch men are great as lovers, not much as potential husbands.

Another thing is that they, by default, think their Dutch directness is the best and expect their women to do so. However not everyone comes from the same culture. Dutch men find it difficult to understand that. I’ve heard many couples have this issues when the girls are from other countries.

One thing I don’t understand is that they do care a lot about their looks but they all have same style: hair with a bit too much hair gel + check shirt tucked (or not) into their straight leg jeans + a bit pointy shoes. They lack some charms in their looks thus losing points in the attractiveness categories. Real shame because there are many good looking guys in NL!

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Moyee Danenberg September 25, 2016 - 07:01

I’m married to a dutch man for 3 half years now… Still married… Dutch men?? Kill me already :/…. They put their own families and friends before their own wives and kids yet we are expected to sacrifice the most and still get treated like shit.

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Alia Moha August 18, 2016 - 04:36

Not cool

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